You may be wondering why I’m starting a pregnancy series – well, the obvious answer is, of course, because I’m pregnant! Yes, Baby #3 is due in June of 2012! We got to see the baby and the heartbeat on an ultrasound on Monday, and that first glimpse of a new baby is just so unbelievably amazing! We are feeling very blessed and happy, but honestly, I have been feeling terrible for the past six weeks. Which explains my quietness around here, thanks for your patience and for sticking with me!
But, this past week, I’ve really turned a corner and things are finally looking up (instead of into the toilet!). I finally have energy to write again, so I wanted to start a frugally green pregnancy series to talk about all things green and frugal and baby related!
So, where to begin, but at the beginning with the first trimester!
Surviving The First Trimester (Kind-of)
I will say again, that I’ve had a really rough past six weeks. Really rough. Worse then either of my first two pregnancies, and this time around I had to take care of two kiddos while try to keep up with working from home at the same time, and not to mention the regular household stuff of cleaning and cooking. It is an understatement to say that it was not fun.
And I’m not really sure that I’m qualified to write much about making it through the first trimester, because I barely survived through it. There were days, even weeks, where I felt like I couldn’t even get off the couch, and literally couldn’t get anything done. And then I would get so overwhelmed and feel like such a failure when my husband came home from work and the house was a mess and there was nothing to eat.
So, here are just a few of my thoughts for somehow making it through those first tough weeks. And remember that every woman is different and responds differently to pregnancy, some women feel great, and some deal with sickness and exhaustion throughout their whole pregnancy. Don’t compare yourself to other pregnant woman – that is the last thing that you need during this season of your life!
Give yourself A LOT of GRACE!
The reality is that you are pregnant, and you won’t realistically be able to do all of the things that you were doing pre-pregnancy, and you shouldn’t. Your body is doing the hard work of growing a new baby and creating a nurturing environment for them to grow and thrive in, and that, some days, is enough.
Go really easy on yourself. Cut back on activities, and social engagements. Do the bare minimum of cleaning – if you can even manage that. And give yourself quick and easy meals that can be prepared quickly without much thought, or gagging. And REST! Your body needs it and you won’t be able to even attempt to function without it!
Ask for Help!
Although you might not be ready to tell the whole world that you’re pregnant yet, think about confiding in a few close friends or family who can give you the help and support that you’ll need to make it through.
My husband was my main, and most amazing, support. He not only dealt with my crazy emotions, he also picked up all of my slack around the house, and he even wrote a blog post for me one day! And of course, he still had his regular job to do too. I absolutely could not have made it without his loving support and tangible, amazing help.
Other people also helped along the way, and I really appreciated it. My parents came one day and turned the almost two bushels of apples we had picked right before I found out I was pregnant, into applesauce for us. Having the support of people around you in those early weeks is invaluable.
Remember that it is just a Season (if you can)
This one was really hard for me, because when you feel like you have the flu and can’t get off the couch week after week, you really think that it will never get better. And my husband had to remind me of this often, and even though I’ve already been through this two time before, it was still hard for me to believe him.
But, I am sitting here writing this to say that you will feel better. You will get to the second trimester, and the nausea, sickness and extreme exhaustion will pass (God willing!).
There were days over the past weeks when I would get upset because I just wanted to feel normal again, like my regular self. I didn’t like feeling so bad (who does?), and I didn’t want to not do anything, but I just had no motivation.
But then, all of a sudden, as quickly as the feeling bad and exhaustion had come on at the beginning, I woke up one day and felt completely different. Better. And it was such a good feeling to be back to my almost normal self.
So, try to remember that the first trimester is a season, and it will pass. It will get better.
And if you need some ideas for how to keep your kids entertained when you can’t get off the couch, check out my ideas over on Babble.
If you’ve survived a rough first trimester of pregnancy, what are some of the things that helped you through?
I did pick a winner for the Dreaming of A Green Christmas Giveaway. The winner of the Koko Lunch Tote is Ginny, ginnybcarl@. Congrats!
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