She Said, He Said – Green Goals for The New Year

You guys, I am so excited to begin this new feature here on Live Renewed! I hope it’s something that you enjoy reading as much as we enjoy writing it.

Actually, this was all my wonderful hubby’s idea. We were talking about ideas for my blog one day and he suggested that maybe we should do a “He said, She said” article featuring our different sides or views on certain topics related to green living.

This may come as a surprise to some of you – maybe not those of you who know us in real life – but my hubs, as wonderful as he is, does not always share my same passion for green and natural living.

In some ways, I can’t blame him. I’m sure there are times that he looks at me and thinks, “Who are you and what did you do with the woman I married?!” Although I think we all change and evolve and grow as people over time, and we really can’t predict the person we will be five or ten or twenty years from now, I know that the changes that have occurred in me, and that I’ve carried over into our family’s life, have hit my husband like a ton of bricks at times. I know that this lifestyle change that we have been going through is not something that was ever on his personal radar.

But, he loves me, and he’s a good guy (a really good guy), so he puts up with me and my craziness – at least most of the time. There are definitely things that he resists me on (real food, anyone?), and other things that he just absolutely puts his foot down (family cloth in the bathroom), and even though getting him to change can sometimes be a slow process, for the most part, he usually comes around.

I’ve asked my hubs before to write a guest post for my blog, because he is a really great writer (I’m actually a little nervous to be writing with him – he’s much better than me!), and for one reason or another, it just never happened. So, this is our alternative, that hopefully each month we’ll write a “She Said, He Said” post for your reading pleasure.

So, I came up with some Green Goals that I have for myself and the family this year and I shared them with him to see what he thought. Here are my green goals, and his response to them!


She Said: My Green Goals for 2012

As I looked over my list from last year, I’m happy to report that I’ve done almost all of them. We still haven’t installed a low-flow shower head (shame on us, I know!), and I think I’m going to pass that one on to hubs this year – because that’s really more of his deal than it is mine. The other ones I didn’t get to were removing plastics from our kitchen, and making sourdough starter, so I’ll add those to my list this year, along with my new goals.

1. Natural and Herbal Remedies

This is one that I’ve wanted to do for a while, but for one reason or another, just haven’t really gotten around to.  We’ve been pretty lucky that we haven’t been too sick yet this season. But the cold and flu season is far from over, and I’d like to make sure we have more natural and herbal remedies on hand for when the sickies do strike, because we know they will, sometime.

2. More Real Food

Oh, for some reason this change has been one of the hardest ones for me over the past year or so. The thing is, I know a lot about what our family should be eating, but actually eating that way the majority of the time is still a challenge for us (maybe part of that is because hubs isn’t totally on board – what say you, hubs?) So, this year I’d like to take the leap from knowledge to action when it comes to our family’s food.

3. Declutter, Simplify, Organize

I think I mentioned before how much I am feeling the need to declutter and simplify our family’s stuff, and get it all organized and get our house finally “finished”. We’ve lived in our home for almost three years, and while I love our house and definitely feel settled, there are still parts of it that still haven’t been set up and organized for the best use of the space, and it definitely causes our family, and me, some major stress at times.

4. More Homemade Products – Beauty & Cleaning

I love making things myself at home, but I didn’t really tackle too many new homemade products this past year for some reason. So I’d really like to get back into that, and I’m especially excited to try my hand at more homemade beauty products. There are so many great recipes out there — Pinterest is a great source of inspiration and ideas!

5. More Handmade and DIY projects

Although I’m not the most crafty and creative mama on the block, I do really enjoy creating stuff with my hands, so I’d like to do more knitting and sewing projects this year – maybe even attempting to give mostly handmade gifts this year. And I’d also like to try more DIY projects around the house, with hubby’s help of course! Again, Pinterest is such a great inspiration for both of these things!

And now it’s his turn!


He Said: Her Green Goals for 2012

So since I really have no reader fans out there I will not bore you with a list of 5 green goals that some guy you don’t know anything about has. Instead, I think I will talk a bit about what I think of the wife’s goals I just found about about three minutes ago. That’s more fun anyway. I’m sure many of you wonder what the other side of the equation thinks on some of these semi crazy ideas my wife has.

To be clear, I love my wife more than words, even words in a blog post, can express. However, the last four years have been a bit of a roller coaster of new experiences in our house. Every few days Em comes up with some new thing she wants us to embrace with the fervor of a woman in labor (if you haven’t been there, trust me, don’t look directly into their eyes…you will be blamed for things they wanted you to do).

Occasionally, I look at said ideas as those of a crazy mad woman, but would certainly never say that. I tell her that sounds “interesting” (crazy), or that I will “look into it” (run far away from it or look far away from it hoping she will forget it), or, occasionally, that I will try it (reluctantly “try it” because I love her).

The crazy part of it all for me is that, like everything in the life of a husband, it takes me a while to figure out that she did, in fact, go ahead and install this idea into our family matrix without my knowing. One day I go to get a paper towel and they no longer exist in our world. Or I go to try and get some cleaner and am bombarded with some kind of tea tree oil based cleaner thingy. Changes work best when they already happened. Just deal with it, man!

So here’s my quick take on the goals the love of my life has decided we need to do.

1.  Natural and Herbal Remedies

Cold and flu season is upon us. That now means that Em will come up with some concoction that contains garlic and some kind of oil while also magically being in a paste like structure. This product will then be applied to feet and other areas to somehow heal us from the sickness. That might sound crazy, but it works. I saw it happen last year. Plus, vampires stay away from us. Last thing I need is some sexy vampire taking my wife away. Go for it, Em!

2.  More Real Food

I like food. The only problem is that I am not a rabbit. If I was a rabbit, I would be the largest one in the world. So some of the ideas the wife shares in regards to food are unappealing to me. I am open to eating better, and have been a champ at times when it comes to changes, but some of this stuff she shows me recipes for makes me want to fast for a long time. That might not be a bad thing. I am coming around on a lot of this food stuff. So go ahead and get your cook on.

3.  Declutter

I am all for the declutter part. If I was forced to find a certain document in the house I may need to hire a few assistants and a search and rescue crew to accomodate the request. We both suck at this. But things have drastically changed with how we view our “stuff” and what we need. So let’s get the clutter handled. And I assume this means you want me to actually finish the projects I started. That’s a tricky way to do it, wife. I applaud your craftiness!

4.  More homemade products.

I’m in. Just don’t try and make me deodorant that makes me smell like a coconut. We live in Indiana, not Maui.

5.  More projects

Go for it! The good Lord knows we have the supplies needed to make these projects a reality. As the creative one in the relationship I value and support this. I have this pair of pants that really need to be hemmed, by the way. And if you get this urge to knit me an ascot, go ahead and let that pass. I do draw certain lines. And if you see a closet on Pinterest that someone turned into a scene from the Chronicles of Narnia that can hold clothes and act as a kitchen/play area for the kids, lets just tone that down a bit and do some baby steps.

Love you, wife!  You know I adore you and your quest for positive changes.  Let’s do it!

Thanks hubs! Love you too!

What green goals or changes have you committed your husband and family to this new year?


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  1. says

    LOL! This is great! I love it! I was laughing the whole way through your husband’s section. I can totally relate since my husband is in LOVE with paper towels and often think I’m crazy with the stuff I do. I can’t wait for next month’s post.

  2. Kate B says

    Hilarious! I love being able to get Jer’s perspective on everything green, I’ve wondered sometimes how he’s handled all the changes. I think this will be a great new part of your blog and look forward to reading it each month.

  3. says

    LOVE this! I feel like I have all the same goals as you (except the sewing and knitting–I’m not ready to attempt that yet!) and this post was so fun to read. Your husband is hilarious!

  4. Angela says

    :-) Really enjoyed this post. Your husband and mine could be great friends and would have so much to talk about. Helps me to remember that our hubs really are very good guys, and deserve some credit for letting us try our new ideas and at least attempting to roll with all the punches. Sometimes our zeal for doing the best for our family can run away from us!

  5. says

    Your Dh reacts the same way mine does with a little fear and shock. I have done the same thing making huge chages in the last couple years. I’m going to try the young living essential oils for staying healthy this year, I have heard amazing things about them. I giggled a lot about the coconut oil deoderant. I use just that everyday and once it soaks in I don’t smell it anymore and it works great nothing else needed. Check out food renegades blog for real food recipes and help in getting your DH on board. My DH is shocked by some of the info. Great post

  6. says

    Haha this is hilarious–nicely done. You are taking something that at times can be a hard issue to navigate and approaching it with humor and honesty. I just read several of his responses to my hub and we both laughed—especially the coconut deodorant since I just started using coconut oil as my primary moisturizer! LOVE it!

  7. says

    This was so funny! My husband says some of the same things! I am also looking forward to reading this each month. I am excited that one of our goals this year is to start a garden! He’s actually excited about building it too. We have been composting for about a year to get ready. I think he has come on board with a lot of things because they are more economical than what we were using. :)

  8. Linda B says

    So,so funny! Love the “he said, she said”. I look forward to the next one. Keep up the good work. I love this site.

  9. says

    I just had to laugh. I think Kurt and Jer share a brain on this front of dealing with crazy and often pregnant wives! Wonderful idea you guys…I love it.

  10. Colleen says

    I love your photo I am really excited to reach your goal together..Hope you marriage will last forever..Thanks for sharing..

  11. Emily @ Live Renewed says

    Thanks so much for all your kind comments! It was fun to write together, and I, too, am looking forward to more of these posts! :)

  12. says

    I love this idea! My husband is much the same as yours in that he doesn’t know what happened to the woman he married. But, he has been a good sport about all of my craziness, even the cloth wipes in the bathroom :-) Food, well, I am trying to move us towards a vegan diet…it isn’t going so well with him :-) My kids on the other hand don’t like meat, so I don’t have to worry about them :-) Looking forward to next month!


  1. […] I talked last month about how this journey that our family is on toward more natural and simple living is not one that my husband probably would have chosen for us. Although I’ve been more of the driving force behind the change, he’s always been a pretty good sport about it. And if you would have told me four years ago that this is what our life would look like today, I probably would have laughed at you, but now that we’re here, I can’t imagine living any other way, and I really love all of the green changes we have made. […]

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