As I sat down to write this first post in the Embracing Self-Care series about truly knowing yourself, I found it just a little ironic that that I am in a season where I’m being forced to slow down and listen to myself, to know myself.
It’s been a little quiet around here lately – not too many new posts. And honestly, it’s not just because I’m busy in other areas of life (although that is true), but mostly it’s just because I’ve been feeling really dry, worn-out, unmotivated, and just kinda blah about life in general the past few weeks.
As I’ve been thinking about this and talking it through with some close blogging friends recently, I’ve realized that for me, this time of year life just starts to slow down around me and I find myself in a really hard place.
For me, and my family, April marks the anniversary of my dad’s passing and the last time that my family was all together when he could still carry on a conversation. Two years ago, two weeks after we had been together for Easter, my dad passed away. As this is only the second time I have marked this anniversary, and last year was extremely hard for me, I need to understand myself and know that this year is going to be difficult too.
In many ways, this past year has been so much better than the first year. I have experienced healing and my faith has been strengthened through the process. I’ve been able to work through a lot of my grief, but I know it’s still there, simmering not too far below the surface.
As we start out this self-care series, I’m making a commitment to take care of myself. I’m recognizing that much of my mental, emotional, and physical energy will need to be used on taking care of myself and my family, and I realize there won’t be much left over to give to this space.
So, in order to do that, I’m going to take the month of April off from blogging, except for this self-care series on Wednesdays. I just know I need to give myself grace and space over the next month to continue to work through my grief. I need to lean into Jesus and my family for my strength and support during this time.
I’m actually incredibly thankful for this series and the way it has forced me to stop and evaluate how I’m doing. Through that I recognized that I need to give myself this break.
And I hope I can help you to recognize for yourself when you need a break from the regular responsibilities of life. I want to encourage you to give yourself grace and space during that time. I think too often as mamas, and wives, and just women – we feel this pressure to “do it all” and not just do it all, but do it well.
While I do believe there is a time and place for pushing yourself through when you’re struggling with lack of motivation and inspiration, I have also been forced to learn over the past few years, that there are other times when we have to be okay with letting go.
We need to know ourselves well enough to recognize those times when we shouldn’t try to push through a hard season. Because pushing ourselves through a rough season when we are overwhelmed, stressed, and just plain worn-out, we miss out on the grace and rest that Jesus offers us. And we miss out on what He might want to be teaching us during that time because we don’t stop for long enough to rest and listen for His voice.
I believe, that in these hard seasons we really we need to stop, pull back, and lavish the same grace onto ourselves that Jesus lavishes onto us. We can trust and believe that He is going to get us through, that this is only for a season, and that His grace is enough.
Be sure to check out all the other posts this week in the Embracing Self-Care Series!
- Beth from Red and Honey
- Diana at My Humble Kitchen
- Erin from The Humbled Homemaker
- Leigh Ann from Intentional By Grace
- Krissa from More than Mundane
- Mindy from This Crazy Wonderful Life
- Nicole from Gidget Goes Home
- Stacy from A Delightful Home
Can you tell us about a hard season in your life when you should have probably stepped back and gave yourself grace, but instead tried too hard to push through it? You can link up your Knowing Yourself: Embraing Self-Care posts with us, or leave your experience in the comments!